For families & friends
For families & friends
How to support someone who is grieving. It’s okay if you don’t know what to say.
A gentle guide for you
How to Love Them Well
Our free guide to help you love a couple trying to start a family, someone longing to be a mom or dad, or parents grieving the loss of a baby: what to say, what not to say, and simple ways to help.
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Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.
Romans 12:15 NIV
Practical ways to help
- Bring a meal.
- Clean the house.
- Run errands.
- Send a card.
- Say the baby’s name.
- Remember due dates and anniversaries.
Kind things to say
- “I’m so sorry.”
- “I love you. I’m here.”
- “I’m thinking of [baby’s name] today.”
- “Can I bring dinner on Tuesday?”
Please avoid saying
- “Everything happens for a reason.”
- “At least…”
- “You can try again.”
- “Why don’t you just adopt?”
Hard days come back
Holidays and due dates can be hard. Every year.
- Write the dates down.
- Check in.
- A simple text means so much.
If you feel unsafe or don’t want to be alive, call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (free, 24/7). In an emergency, call 911.
A gentle gift
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